You Can’t Win Them All… Or Can You???

 

Giirrrrlllll Frienddssss!!!

 

 

As a woman who has many female friends, I look at the women I chose to surround myself with and see all the reasons why they are beautiful.  I know the strong character they exhibit, their many accomplishments, the things they do for their families and friends,  the sacrifices they make for others, and the drive they have to be successful.  

I love my girls; each and every one of them.  Some are professional students who are soon to be doctors, researchers, psychologists, marriage and family therapists, lawyers, and Ph.D’s.  Some are career women on their grind at IBM, Kelley Drye and Warren, FBI, Child Protective Services, BET, and Chevy Chase.  Many own property or are currently in the process of buying properties. Many are teachers across the nation who are dedicated to educate our  youth.  TOOO many are on some C.P.A. shit running Ernst and Young, Deliott, KPMG, and PWC.  And all are just fucking fabulous! There is still just one thing bout these honeys I don’t understand…  In your boldest and deepest voice say “Phenomenal Woman, that’s me” like Soror Maya would to continue….

  These women are SINGLE!!!   I know some of the D.M.V.’s most eligible ladies and any one who knows me knows these girls are exactly what I describe. Not only are they educated but. they are also are down to earth, fun, and can walk it out better than UNK him self.  Although these women have so much to offer, they are still not in healthy, strong, long lasting relationships.

 So my theory is, if you are hitting  7’s or 11’s habitually on this “crap table” we call life  causing us to “get lucky” in our careers, educations, incomes, family interactions, relationships with God, and friendships, but  you keep rolling snake eyes in the relationship category that maybe, just maybe you can’t win them all?  When it seems so attainable to remain lucky in every other part of your life, why does it seem it’s so difficult to get lucky with love?  You know, I truly believe that when you have all aspects of your life in line you can attract the right relationships but I am noticing a consistency amongst my girls that even when your ducks are in a row, a good relationship isn’t  guaranteed.  This leaves me to my next question…Where are the good guys???

See alot of my girls are doing their thing but they are not alone;  alot of my male friends are dong their thing as well!!  The men who are on par with the accomplishments of my crew are on their grind right now getting paper ( real reinforced paper called degrees that bring more doe) !!  These dudes may not be seeking relationships right now but, instead are focusing on their careers, are still out here crookin til they get on their feet, and are trying to get (or stay) on the same level or higher as the women they hope to attract.  So maybe the women I know who are out here waiting on Prince Charming are being preserved for men who are just taking a little bit longer to get their ish together.  I know alot of good guys who want to settle down eventually but they are trying to get all their bachelor tendencies out, save some money, get some degrees, or move forward with their careers before they give up the ultimate commitments.

 So ladies don’t lose hope!  Their are many good men out here who are able to recognize the same things your girls see in you but they are just taking their time to get on your level or above so they can be just as impressive.  Wouldn’t you rather him come at you correctly, when he knows he’s done crookin and has the means to provide , then when he is still uncertain what he wants or what he wants to be?  At this point, you want to know the man you commit to is presenting him self with something to offer, not as someone coming to take take take!!!  

So the question remains, Can you win them all?  The answer is simple, if you learn from your losses in the past and relate them to your future interactions, you can turn your L’s to W’s like that!  Lebron did it during the finals and look what happened in Game 5! Instead of focusing on your mistakes and pitfalls of the past and beating yourself up over them, use them as a template of what not to do in your future relationships.  If you learn from your mistakes and are just a little patient, you will stop rollin “snake eyes”  and rollin 7’s and 11’s will become second nature in the relationship category just like every other aspect of your life.

Trust me,  unlike craps relationships don’t have to be a gamble.  You know what to do ladies;  keep your ish together and my initial belief stands strong, you attract who you are and there’s no luck about it.  You may have to be patient in order to get your prize but in the end it feels good to know you will win!